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Ranting and disputing and disagreeing, oh my.

I am getting so tired of mainstream media and their constant abuse of photoshop editing. I am getting tired of the notion that if I have stretch marks or cellulite or for god’s sake, even dark circles under my eyes that I am not beautiful. I have something to say to you, IT’S CALLED LIFE. Want to sell me your new BB cream or moisturiser, then use a human being that doesn’t deserve to have his/her dignity in question and their body smoothed and flattered to pander to the magazine or advert executives. We are creating a distorted view to the younger generations who are going to grow up in a world believing that they are not worthy because they have a blemish or they are ‘’overweight’’ 

We are already in a world where a young woman is being heckled and chastised because she decided to have her model photographs unedited. Can you believe this, she is a size 10 and these people called her fat. I’m trying not to be preachy, I understand that we are biology and we are all different shapes and sizes, but what happened to decency? What happened to acceptance? I know we have come to accept that photoshop is a part of the fashion and media world, but why should it have to be? There is nothing more beautiful and graceful than a person who is their true genuine self. It is raw, it is powerful and compelling. Show me a model that has life in her face and body, a face that shows experience and a story.

 I am going off on a tangent here, but the point I think I’m trying to convey is that as human beings we are flawed, and it’s okay. Perfection is dull, dry and unstimulating. Be proud of who you are and give two fingers to the establishment that is trying to sell you amelioration and improvement.

 You are all beautiful just as you are.

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Reflecting on what’s important.

I recently received some news in the post that I wasn’t expecting, hadn’t given much thought about and totally wasn’t prepared for. It’s funny how something so small as words on a white sheet of paper can shake up your entire world, but it’s these small things that open your eyes and allows you to really reflect on what’s important to YOU and your life right now. 

My news isn’t life or death, it’s not something that will (hopefully) affect me long term but even so, it’s got me thinking and mulling over everything I take advantage of and it’s really shone a light on that we are never promised tomorrow.

 So what is important to me? RIGHT NOW, in this moment in time…

 

-my sweet, kind and beautiful partner

-my friends

-my family

-my music

-being creative

-my health (such as it is)

-enjoying the little things

-remembering that it’s always darkest before dawn

 So, looking at that above list, it’s all things that are important to me regardless but my perspective has been altered dramatically. These are people and my passions that will not be taken for granted anymore and cherished all the more.

 I think my point is, try not to get too comfortable with your life. You be the one to decide to shake up your outlook, not have it thrown on you like it did for me.

 I’ll be in the hospital tomorrow, wish me good news and once I get out I’ll be out there trying to live my life 110%

 Live long and prosper, be excellent to each other ^^ x

Ashley Graham, you, are beautiful. 

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one.

The reason I bring this up, is the damaging and thoughtless comments uttered by Edwina Currie about Ashley Graham and her striking, curvaceous size 14 body.

You may have seen in the news that she was on the front of the Sports Illustrated magazine and simply oozed confidence and sexuality. She looked into that camera and her eyes said ‘’this is me, I am beautiful.’’

Ashley Graham is curvy, stunning and a picture of health. Most women would sell their left kidney to look like her. Edwina wrongly states that her ‘’plus size’’ body encourages obesity. What planet is this woman from? Ashley Graham has embraced WHO SHE IS.

I can’t speak for her, but in a world where women and girls all over the world are starving themselves every day to fill the visions of deluded fashion designers, she is a breath of fresh air!

What Edwina fails to grasp is that you can exercise, eat the right foods and still be healthy whether you’re a size 14 or 8 or 4. The human body comes in all wonderful and beautiful shapes and sizes, and Ashley Graham has given the industry a gigantic boost for diversity on our catwalks and highstreets.

She is an example of someone who epitomizes health and has a lot of gusto.

She is the role model I would have wanted as a young woman, and is now. A healthy and gorgeous body to be proud of.

You are all beautiful, be excellent to each other.

[Toni] Waist Trainers

I don’t have much to say on this subject apart from this: those waist trainer things are a load of shit. Why would you not want your natural waist? Why do you want to change how your bone structure is? Do you not see how silly that is? I just don’t get it.

Keep seeing it on instagram from people who WERE an inspiration to me: STOP PROMOTING IT. It’s weird!

[Toni] Being good to your bridesmaids

I’ve just been reading a few blog posts on the subject of “I’m a bridesmaid and my friend has asked my to change my appearance for the big day”, ranging from dying their hair to a normal colour to covering tattoos and even losing weight.

These thoughts never, ever, crossed my mind when I was dealing with my 4 bridesmaids. They are all different shapes, sizes and heights! They are all gorgeous and it doesn’t matter if they have a bit of extra weight on them or not. 2 of them are self conscious about it and I knew the same dress wouldn’t suit them all, so we opted for different dresses in the same colour and got them altered if needed. It worked perfectly.

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Finding a dress for the 2 self conscious ones was kind of sad, because they would mention about being “fat” and “massive”, when they looked lovely. Plus what can you say to that when they are convinced they look horrible? (note: when I try and sound enthusiastic I end up sounding sarcastic!). I wanted them to feel pretty and comfortable and I think it worked.

A family member kept turning their nose up at a couple of my bridesmaids tattoos too, which really annoyed me. The tattoos are part of who they are and it’s kind of insulting if you ask them to cover them and turn your nose up at it. Yes, it’s not to everyone’s taste, but who cares? It’s not harming you in any way.

I chose my bridesmaids because they are my closest friends and I love them for who they are, not because I wanted model perfect photos (boring!),. That’s not what a wedding is about.

Bridezillas need to take a step back and really think about what they are saying before they do that – you’re getting married to the love of your life, everyone is there to celebrate that love and all eyes would be on you anyway. All that matters is everyone turns up and you get to sign that certificate!

[Toni] Fit For Fall #CharityChallenge results!

Hello! Long time no post. I have been so busy trying to keep up with my workouts and just keeping the house clean and tidy that when I get to sit down I can’t be bothered to post. Oops!

I didn’t take my measurements at the end, but halfway through I had lost 1 inch on my hips, abs and waist so something worked! There has been a bit of progress but I just feel really good and healthy. I also looked back from a picture in January and there is a massive difference. I will share that in a month or so!

The main difference has been my backside haha, you can’t see it so much here but you can see my hips have toned up I think, and my belly is slightly flatter.

Anyway, I’ll keep it going and this time next year I will be so toned (I hope!)

Some of the workouts I’ve been doing:

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For now I am just going to fit in what I can and try not to worry if I miss something on the schedule. I am also eating quite well, only having junk food when I REALLY crave it and can;t stop thinking about it all day. That way I only have a little bit and don’t go off track the rest of the time.

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If anyone fancies joining in with another TIU challenge, I have signed up for their New Year one on self.com – you can find the post in their ‘Fitness’ section! It will be a good way to get back on track after Christmas and New Year celebrations (we all know how much I scoff over that time – but I never regret it). I’m glad it starts on the 3rd so then I can still have time to eat all the leftovers!

Until next time x

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Toni] Show me those pearly whites

This morning I couldn’t remember if I had cleaned my teeth last night but I did. Then I thought I would do a blog post about something I nag my friends about.

The dentist.

Some people get nervous and are scared of the dentist (but I don’t get why!).

You gotta go every 6 months. Just go. The more regular you attend,  the quicker the appointments are. I go every 6 months and am always told my teeth are really clean. No fillings for me!
Another excuse I always get is that it is expensive. Um, not really? If you’d spend £18 on a tshirt and not a check up, then your priorities are wrong.

Anyway, I don’t want to sound like I am having a go but I think it’s important.

They don’t just check your teeth, they check your gums, tongue etc and if they spot any infections just beginning,  at least it is dealt with before it gets really bad (and before it is too bad and gets expensive!).

I notice some people are self conscious about it so don’t want to smile, but what’s more beautiful than a genuine big grin?

 “If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden!”

This post isn’t so much about body-issues or self-esteem, but more about those five second snap judgements we place on people that can get mired and stuck in our subconscious and how easy it is to stick with that perceived ideal. 

Recently I’ve been thinking about how humans identify and observe each other, what little flaw or trait can make or break the deal on friendship, acquaintances and even love. Everyone has that internal checklist that goes ping ping ping when you meet someone for the first time, but a lot of the time you encounter stories about that woman shopping in the high-street supermarket and she is approached by a big beardy man; her initial reaction is to cower and be stand-offish, but then he smiles at her and offers to reach down that can of butterbeans that she can’t quite grab and they strike up a conversation- and hey, would you know it, they share a mutual adoration for Bengal cats and jazz fusion. You never know someone until you walk in their skin, and relive their memories and the experiences that shape them.

 Point being, people are so caught up in appearances and stereotypes, they see the outside and more often than not forgets that we are more complex than that with many fascinating layers. There is a whole world out there full of diverse, interesting and intriguing people. Talk to them. Listen to their stories, laugh and cry with them. Don’t dismiss them just because they have a face full of piercings or bleached hair and a tango tan. Each person is unique with their own thoughts and ideals.

 I spent the morning trawling through the internet and I found some inspiring stories and quotes of people that looked beyond the appearance of others and saw frailty, vulnerability and above all else, compassion. The world would be a beautiful and more acceptable place to live in if we could remove our prejudices and values, and try to view things from another’s perspective.

 “If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” — Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden.

 This story below by far demonstrates how easy it is to pigeonhole someone based on our narrow perception of the world, and why it is important to take a step back and have a little bit more empathy and understanding…

 “To the family in the red SUV at Tim Horton’s today; yes, I am a big, 230-pound guy with motorcycles and full of tattoos. I am loud, I drink coke and I look like I would eat your soul if you stare at me wrong…

What you don’t know is that I have been happily married and my 30-year-old kids call me Dad. I am a college graduate, my mother is proud of me and tells everyone how lucky she is to have such a wonderful son.

My nieces and nephews are always happy to see their Uncle Rocky. When my boys broke their bones, I cried more than they did. I read books, I help people, I go out of my way to thank war veterans and I even cried at Armageddon and Schindler’s List.

So next time I smile and say hi to your little girl and you grab her and tell her ‘No, no, dear, we don’t talk to dirty bikers,’ remember that even though you hurt my feelings, this ‘dirty biker’ would be the first person to run into your burning house to save your little girl – and her goldfish, so she wouldn’t be sad!”

 So go forth lovely readers; talk to your neighbours, ask questions and delve in deep. Tell people about yourself, your passions and dreams, why you enjoy cheese and marmite on toast. Let’s make the world a universal community, remove the lines and understand that we’re not going to get out alive so always have an open mind, your brain isn’t going to fall out 😉

 Please feel free to share your own stories in the comment thread, we would love to read them!

 

 

Busy with the wedding prep

ah so its 2 days to go until i get married! Needless to say that I have been manic with finishing the last minute details for it. I have done a lot of DIY to save money; if you do decide to do that, make sure you complete a bit at a time in advance or you will be so stressed out!

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Table centrepieces- I love these!

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Flowers for the bouquet!

I havent had time to keep up with the final BikiniSeries weekly schedule so I have made sure all of my meals have been Tone It Up approved. I did need to get myself moving this morning though, so I got up and did this Love Your Body™ HIIT! routine: https://youtu.be/SH44i3nH9s
and Bikini Abs. I feel so much better now!
I am not obsessing too much over the exercise. Much bigger things to worry about!
Waiting to get my nails done now,  see you later!

Bikini Series – Week 2

Hello!

I’m now on to week 3 of the Bikini Series challenge. Last week went well- I didn’t complete the exercise schedule as I was fighting off a chest infection, but I still ended up losing 1 inch off my abs, 1 off my hips and 1.5 inches from my waist.
There is this Set The Bar routine that needs to be completed every 2 weeks and my results have improved since the first attempt, so I am very happy. All in all, I feel loads better, my skin is clear and I don’t feel full of crap! I think I am enjoying the breakfasts the most as they seem really naughty but they are so good for you.


The only thing I really missed last week was bread, but not until Friday. The weekend was a write off from Saturday night as it was my hen do and then I was so hungover on Sunday all I ate was bread, crisps and chocolate (on top of a fry up). As long as I am back on track now (which I am), then I won’t hurt. I definitely don’t feel guilty, I had loads of fun and the food was yummy. Worth it!