Category Archives: Love

Ranting and disputing and disagreeing, oh my.

I am getting so tired of mainstream media and their constant abuse of photoshop editing. I am getting tired of the notion that if I have stretch marks or cellulite or for god’s sake, even dark circles under my eyes that I am not beautiful. I have something to say to you, IT’S CALLED LIFE. Want to sell me your new BB cream or moisturiser, then use a human being that doesn’t deserve to have his/her dignity in question and their body smoothed and flattered to pander to the magazine or advert executives. We are creating a distorted view to the younger generations who are going to grow up in a world believing that they are not worthy because they have a blemish or they are ‘’overweight’’ 

We are already in a world where a young woman is being heckled and chastised because she decided to have her model photographs unedited. Can you believe this, she is a size 10 and these people called her fat. I’m trying not to be preachy, I understand that we are biology and we are all different shapes and sizes, but what happened to decency? What happened to acceptance? I know we have come to accept that photoshop is a part of the fashion and media world, but why should it have to be? There is nothing more beautiful and graceful than a person who is their true genuine self. It is raw, it is powerful and compelling. Show me a model that has life in her face and body, a face that shows experience and a story.

 I am going off on a tangent here, but the point I think I’m trying to convey is that as human beings we are flawed, and it’s okay. Perfection is dull, dry and unstimulating. Be proud of who you are and give two fingers to the establishment that is trying to sell you amelioration and improvement.

 You are all beautiful just as you are.

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Reflecting on what’s important.

I recently received some news in the post that I wasn’t expecting, hadn’t given much thought about and totally wasn’t prepared for. It’s funny how something so small as words on a white sheet of paper can shake up your entire world, but it’s these small things that open your eyes and allows you to really reflect on what’s important to YOU and your life right now. 

My news isn’t life or death, it’s not something that will (hopefully) affect me long term but even so, it’s got me thinking and mulling over everything I take advantage of and it’s really shone a light on that we are never promised tomorrow.

 So what is important to me? RIGHT NOW, in this moment in time…

 

-my sweet, kind and beautiful partner

-my friends

-my family

-my music

-being creative

-my health (such as it is)

-enjoying the little things

-remembering that it’s always darkest before dawn

 So, looking at that above list, it’s all things that are important to me regardless but my perspective has been altered dramatically. These are people and my passions that will not be taken for granted anymore and cherished all the more.

 I think my point is, try not to get too comfortable with your life. You be the one to decide to shake up your outlook, not have it thrown on you like it did for me.

 I’ll be in the hospital tomorrow, wish me good news and once I get out I’ll be out there trying to live my life 110%

 Live long and prosper, be excellent to each other ^^ x

Ashley Graham, you, are beautiful. 

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one.

The reason I bring this up, is the damaging and thoughtless comments uttered by Edwina Currie about Ashley Graham and her striking, curvaceous size 14 body.

You may have seen in the news that she was on the front of the Sports Illustrated magazine and simply oozed confidence and sexuality. She looked into that camera and her eyes said ‘’this is me, I am beautiful.’’

Ashley Graham is curvy, stunning and a picture of health. Most women would sell their left kidney to look like her. Edwina wrongly states that her ‘’plus size’’ body encourages obesity. What planet is this woman from? Ashley Graham has embraced WHO SHE IS.

I can’t speak for her, but in a world where women and girls all over the world are starving themselves every day to fill the visions of deluded fashion designers, she is a breath of fresh air!

What Edwina fails to grasp is that you can exercise, eat the right foods and still be healthy whether you’re a size 14 or 8 or 4. The human body comes in all wonderful and beautiful shapes and sizes, and Ashley Graham has given the industry a gigantic boost for diversity on our catwalks and highstreets.

She is an example of someone who epitomizes health and has a lot of gusto.

She is the role model I would have wanted as a young woman, and is now. A healthy and gorgeous body to be proud of.

You are all beautiful, be excellent to each other.

[Bea] The Happiness Diet 

[SAPPY ALERT! SAPPY ALERT!] 

In August 2015 I met the love of my life; he suddenly appeared in my life as a drop-dead gorgeous 5’’11 bearded, long-haired beauty. I never thought it was possible to experience this type of selfless and blissful love, to feel genuinely this happy.

 Before I met him, I had been contently single for nearly 10-12 months (after a few disastrous dating miss-haps), living by myself and milling around without a care in the world. A true ‘miss-independent’. However, during all of this, I somehow managed to slip down to an unnatural size 6-8. A fast metabolism maybe? Unintentionally skipping meals? Who knows, but I embraced this change in me for a while, buying fitted clothing and relishing my smaller waist.

 Fast-forward to August, I’ve met him and we’re dating. Along comes the ‘I love yous’ and not long after ‘I know you’re the one’ and everything in my life changed. I was skipping to work with a beamy smile on my face, telling anyone who would listen (and often exasperating my friends ;D) how wonderfully happy I was. Without even realising my small 6-8 waist gradually became a size 10.

 It was strange how sudden I had put on the weight, but I knew it was because I was happy. Initially I tried to fight it, but after time I began to understand that I was back at my natural weight. I am still exercising and eating right and I feel fantastic. My friend Toni eloquently summarised that it was ‘the happiness diet’.

 I think the point I am trying to convey is that if you keep yo-yoing between sizes, don’t fight it and embrace your natural beauty. It took love for me to love myself for who I am. I wish that I could have realised this on my own terms, but who am I to question the universe? It is what it is. Wholeheartedly accept that who you are is a gorgeous, engaging human being.

 

Je suis beautiful; be excellent to each-other ^~^