Category Archives: Confidence

[Toni] What is wrong with you High Street?

Argh I’m getting so frustrated trying to find new clothes that fit recently! I just don’t understand how some bottoms I can be a size small and it’s still a bit big and then other times a size 12 is digging in or I can’t even do it up!

It’s easy to let this get into your head and you start thinking “oh I need to lose weight then I will fit into it.”

NO.

Clothes shops for some reason have different measurements for the ‘same size’ (huh?) and it’s so confusing. You just have to remember, if you pick up a size 16 it doesn’t mean you will actually look like you are size 16 – not that that is a problem anyway. I’ve known so many people who refuse to try on the bigger size just because of the number. It doesn’t mean you have put on 10 stone all of a sudden!

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Saw this on twitter – love Kat!

H&M are definitely the worst culprits. I’ve tried on some skirts and trousers in a size small and they are too big, yet a size 14 trouser sometimes doesn’t fit (I am 12 by the way).

I’m finding at the moment if I try on size 12 dresses, they are always too big at the top. Designers, please remember that just because people are size 12 it doesn’t mean they have a DD cup size. Some of my tops are size 8!

So girls, don’t worry if you are fitting in a big size or a small size – the number does not matter. As long as you feel good, that is all that counts.

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[Toni] Focus on health

I’ve just opened my emails and found my newsletter from Neghar Fonooni. She is so brilliant! Everything she writes about is exactly my views on health and fitness, most importantly it’s about listening to your body.

Since I have finished the Bikini  Series challenge and took a holiday in Spain, I haven’t got back in to a rigid fitness routine. Now I know I definitely needed the rest and was actually pushing it too hard. The only consistent fitness for me is Zumba and badminton, because it is fun…although I think I need a break from badminton soon as I am starting to get frustrated with it.

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Me and my Zumba buddy!

When I do workouts at home, I choose Tone It Up or Jessica Smith. I have done a couple of TIU ones the past couple of weeks and they are so much more challenging since I’ve relaxed a little bit. I find it much more enjoyable because of that.

Because that’s what exercise should be – fun!

I don’t set targets anymore, I just do what I feel like and it’s made me a happier person.

I think I’ve also broken free from the scales! I’m one of those people I see on social media that I always get jealous about. Am I finally free?! Let’s hope so.

I’m definitely swinging towards the more Body Positive side of things. You should try it, it’s awesome!

Ranting and disputing and disagreeing, oh my.

I am getting so tired of mainstream media and their constant abuse of photoshop editing. I am getting tired of the notion that if I have stretch marks or cellulite or for god’s sake, even dark circles under my eyes that I am not beautiful. I have something to say to you, IT’S CALLED LIFE. Want to sell me your new BB cream or moisturiser, then use a human being that doesn’t deserve to have his/her dignity in question and their body smoothed and flattered to pander to the magazine or advert executives. We are creating a distorted view to the younger generations who are going to grow up in a world believing that they are not worthy because they have a blemish or they are ‘’overweight’’ 

We are already in a world where a young woman is being heckled and chastised because she decided to have her model photographs unedited. Can you believe this, she is a size 10 and these people called her fat. I’m trying not to be preachy, I understand that we are biology and we are all different shapes and sizes, but what happened to decency? What happened to acceptance? I know we have come to accept that photoshop is a part of the fashion and media world, but why should it have to be? There is nothing more beautiful and graceful than a person who is their true genuine self. It is raw, it is powerful and compelling. Show me a model that has life in her face and body, a face that shows experience and a story.

 I am going off on a tangent here, but the point I think I’m trying to convey is that as human beings we are flawed, and it’s okay. Perfection is dull, dry and unstimulating. Be proud of who you are and give two fingers to the establishment that is trying to sell you amelioration and improvement.

 You are all beautiful just as you are.

Reflecting on what’s important.

I recently received some news in the post that I wasn’t expecting, hadn’t given much thought about and totally wasn’t prepared for. It’s funny how something so small as words on a white sheet of paper can shake up your entire world, but it’s these small things that open your eyes and allows you to really reflect on what’s important to YOU and your life right now. 

My news isn’t life or death, it’s not something that will (hopefully) affect me long term but even so, it’s got me thinking and mulling over everything I take advantage of and it’s really shone a light on that we are never promised tomorrow.

 So what is important to me? RIGHT NOW, in this moment in time…

 

-my sweet, kind and beautiful partner

-my friends

-my family

-my music

-being creative

-my health (such as it is)

-enjoying the little things

-remembering that it’s always darkest before dawn

 So, looking at that above list, it’s all things that are important to me regardless but my perspective has been altered dramatically. These are people and my passions that will not be taken for granted anymore and cherished all the more.

 I think my point is, try not to get too comfortable with your life. You be the one to decide to shake up your outlook, not have it thrown on you like it did for me.

 I’ll be in the hospital tomorrow, wish me good news and once I get out I’ll be out there trying to live my life 110%

 Live long and prosper, be excellent to each other ^^ x

[Toni] Spring warm-up for the Bikini Series!

Hey guys!

So last week I got myself in the habit of morning workouts everyday again in preparation for the Bikini Series. I’m feeling pretty good!

I’ve definitely been pushing myself a lot more and have started doing kick-boxing workouts. They are so fun! I am definitely feeling sore in places that I wasn’t before.

Bodyposipanda is one of the many Body Positive bloggers that I have been following, to make sure I stay in reality and not get too carried away with “clean eating” and fitness. You’ve got to remember that life is too short to be too strict, and getting obsessed with it all is far less healthy than eating some ice-cream or a pizza every now and then.

Talking about ‘bopo’, Shape Magazine are doing a new campaign called #LoveMyShape – it is awesome. We need more stuff like this in the media, fo’ sho’. Definitely one to have a look at!

This week I will be trying to stick with morning workouts again, although this morning I couldn’t as my legs were so tight from my bike ride. The soreness has eased and I shall be doing a workout later!

[Toni] Bikini Series 2016

Oh wow, there is so much hype for the next Tone It Up Bikini Series! It’s all strangely exciting.

I’ve received my starter pack so I can start prepping. I am determined to stick to the whole 8 weeks this time as it leads right up to my holiday in June. I’ve already started getting back into morning workouts. TIU are releasing another 8 week meal plan for members but I’ll decide when I see it whether I want to follow it or not. I’m doing pretty well using Slimming World recipes, so I can see myself just using the meal plan as a guide.

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The little group of friends I have made through TIU has helped hype the challenge up for sure. We are so on it this year!

I’m pretty happy with my abs this time! It’s my hips and back that I would love to tone, so maybe I will have some good results to share with you in 8 weeks time!

GOALS:

  1. Complete the 100 mile challenge on my bike
  2. Body Pump once a week
  3. Keep up with kick-boxing videos
  4. Stick to the schedule as much as I can

Bee, will you be joining me?!

Ashley Graham, you, are beautiful. 

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one.

The reason I bring this up, is the damaging and thoughtless comments uttered by Edwina Currie about Ashley Graham and her striking, curvaceous size 14 body.

You may have seen in the news that she was on the front of the Sports Illustrated magazine and simply oozed confidence and sexuality. She looked into that camera and her eyes said ‘’this is me, I am beautiful.’’

Ashley Graham is curvy, stunning and a picture of health. Most women would sell their left kidney to look like her. Edwina wrongly states that her ‘’plus size’’ body encourages obesity. What planet is this woman from? Ashley Graham has embraced WHO SHE IS.

I can’t speak for her, but in a world where women and girls all over the world are starving themselves every day to fill the visions of deluded fashion designers, she is a breath of fresh air!

What Edwina fails to grasp is that you can exercise, eat the right foods and still be healthy whether you’re a size 14 or 8 or 4. The human body comes in all wonderful and beautiful shapes and sizes, and Ashley Graham has given the industry a gigantic boost for diversity on our catwalks and highstreets.

She is an example of someone who epitomizes health and has a lot of gusto.

She is the role model I would have wanted as a young woman, and is now. A healthy and gorgeous body to be proud of.

You are all beautiful, be excellent to each other.

[Bea] The Happiness Diet 

[SAPPY ALERT! SAPPY ALERT!] 

In August 2015 I met the love of my life; he suddenly appeared in my life as a drop-dead gorgeous 5’’11 bearded, long-haired beauty. I never thought it was possible to experience this type of selfless and blissful love, to feel genuinely this happy.

 Before I met him, I had been contently single for nearly 10-12 months (after a few disastrous dating miss-haps), living by myself and milling around without a care in the world. A true ‘miss-independent’. However, during all of this, I somehow managed to slip down to an unnatural size 6-8. A fast metabolism maybe? Unintentionally skipping meals? Who knows, but I embraced this change in me for a while, buying fitted clothing and relishing my smaller waist.

 Fast-forward to August, I’ve met him and we’re dating. Along comes the ‘I love yous’ and not long after ‘I know you’re the one’ and everything in my life changed. I was skipping to work with a beamy smile on my face, telling anyone who would listen (and often exasperating my friends ;D) how wonderfully happy I was. Without even realising my small 6-8 waist gradually became a size 10.

 It was strange how sudden I had put on the weight, but I knew it was because I was happy. Initially I tried to fight it, but after time I began to understand that I was back at my natural weight. I am still exercising and eating right and I feel fantastic. My friend Toni eloquently summarised that it was ‘the happiness diet’.

 I think the point I am trying to convey is that if you keep yo-yoing between sizes, don’t fight it and embrace your natural beauty. It took love for me to love myself for who I am. I wish that I could have realised this on my own terms, but who am I to question the universe? It is what it is. Wholeheartedly accept that who you are is a gorgeous, engaging human being.

 

Je suis beautiful; be excellent to each-other ^~^ 

JOYEUX NOEL! 

2015 is coming to an end and I just wanted to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. 

I trust you will all have a fabulous time with your loved ones over the festive period; enjoy tucking into crispy roast potatoes and soft succulent turkey and even those awful Brussel sprouts 😉

 Remember that it is okay to give in to temptation, Christmas is all about food and love, my favourite combination(!) and you’ve got plenty of time to work it off, or not, you’re all beautiful in my eyes anyway.

 So here’s to 2016! Let it be a year of peace, late nights with friends, laughing hard, long hugs, love and downing an entire pint of Ben and Jerry’s in one sitting and not even given a single f*ck ;D

 JE SUIS BEAUTIFUL!

[Bea] No shame

In response to those disgusting and offensive cards handed out on the tubes this week shaming women and men for being overweight, I’ll be going online and ordering some business size cards with notes to say ‘you are beautiful’ and I’ll be taking them with me everywhere I go, spreading the message that there are 7billion of us on this planet and the differences are remarkable and fantastic. Could you imagine a world with all of us the same? Life would be predictable and not very fun.

And you pathetic people out there, what right do you have to judge and ridicule those who are different from you? So what if they are overweight? They are still human beings with thoughts, love and feelings.

Readers, you know our stance on this issue. Ignore the naysayers, the thoughtless fools who think they are above themselves and have the right to abuse and destroy your confidence.

We are above all of this. We are beautiful.

Now go and enjoy your weekend. I’ll be tucking into a pizza, a whiskey or five and enjoying myself; as you should be.

Be excellent to each other!