I’ve just been reading a few blog posts on the subject of “I’m a bridesmaid and my friend has asked my to change my appearance for the big day”, ranging from dying their hair to a normal colour to covering tattoos and even losing weight.
These thoughts never, ever, crossed my mind when I was dealing with my 4 bridesmaids. They are all different shapes, sizes and heights! They are all gorgeous and it doesn’t matter if they have a bit of extra weight on them or not. 2 of them are self conscious about it and I knew the same dress wouldn’t suit them all, so we opted for different dresses in the same colour and got them altered if needed. It worked perfectly.
Finding a dress for the 2 self conscious ones was kind of sad, because they would mention about being “fat” and “massive”, when they looked lovely. Plus what can you say to that when they are convinced they look horrible? (note: when I try and sound enthusiastic I end up sounding sarcastic!). I wanted them to feel pretty and comfortable and I think it worked.
A family member kept turning their nose up at a couple of my bridesmaids tattoos too, which really annoyed me. The tattoos are part of who they are and it’s kind of insulting if you ask them to cover them and turn your nose up at it. Yes, it’s not to everyone’s taste, but who cares? It’s not harming you in any way.
I chose my bridesmaids because they are my closest friends and I love them for who they are, not because I wanted model perfect photos (boring!),. That’s not what a wedding is about.
Bridezillas need to take a step back and really think about what they are saying before they do that – you’re getting married to the love of your life, everyone is there to celebrate that love and all eyes would be on you anyway. All that matters is everyone turns up and you get to sign that certificate!